Let's be honest. Holidays do a pretty good
job bringing out about as much stress as anything on the planet. For some reason
the pressure gets cranked up and everything comes under not just a spotlight,
but a microscope. It's the season for charity, for giving, for selflessness, and
for media driven haters. And I think we're all getting tired of it. I've run
into several posts and comments this last week pointing out the redundancy and
stupidity of grouping up a hatefest on haters. I mean, it's ok to vehemently
hate the little stuff, right? It's ok to group shred a person for having a bad
day and saying something stupid. But it's not ok if someone blows up and starts
shooting little kids. I'm not understanding where the difference lies. When is
it ok to HATE in the first place? Where do we draw the line at stomping on
people's heads? I think what's bothering me is that the haters hating the other
haters think they're the good people and it's their duty to hate the bad haters
as long as we're on the good haters side.
One thing that's kind of bothering me is
famous people doing this. They have huge loads of followers favoriting and
retweeting everything they do, moving along like a synchronized school of fish.
If a famous person designates someone to group hate on, the whole school of fish
starts chiming in, even if it was just one comment from a hit and run person who
normally doesn't follow the famous person to begin with. It's important to
establish that we HATE ANYONE who dares to speak their mind about something they
don't like, regardless of where that person is coming from. It's important to
GROUP HATE and make sure we're all on the same side PROTECTING OUR FAMOUS
PERSON. *wow*
Grow up. I just want to say that to
everyone in the media who has a bad day getting a little offended by a tweeter
or commenter saying something not as nice as you'd like. So it got to you, so
you blew up. YOU are affecting a LOT of people by responding to it. YOU are
TEACHING people to GROUP HATE. Even if you do it in the name of all that is good
and holy and justify all your reasons for crashing down to their level reacting
to it, it is still HATE. I'm really tired of seeing that. We want our
superheroes, but we can't be superheroes ourselves on the internet. We can't
just walk by a few pissy words without having to make a huge deal out of
them.
I see famous people talk about
having depression, and I see them make big deals out of making sure to post that
you should help family members or friends get the proper help they need for
depression every time suicide or grisly crimes or whatever pops up on the news,
but I don't see them actually say anything substantial about how they themselves
are surviving real depression DAILY, or how they are themselves helping real
family members and friends cope DAILY. They don't talk about how emotionally
exhausting it is, or how we keep ourselves going, or the little things that help
us keep it all together when our worlds fall apart. In fact, those very people
with the big schools of fish following them don't seem to notice how much they
rely themselves on those schools of fish to keep them going. Must be nice. Where
can *I* get a school of fish to follow my every move and support me through
every minor crisis and shred any haters that cross my path? I know, you earned
that because you did something that makes money. I could play the same game,
actually the ultimate in gaming, right? Become successful, gain a following,
build your private army, and Be Someone in blogs and on twitter. I'm all for
that, I just think the group hate thing sux.
Haters gonna hate. If you can't deal with
one or two little haters popping up in your following of, what, 20,000 or more
(millions?), DANG. You've got a problem, famous person. Because the rest of us
deal head on with haters while the lurkers cower and hope we are the superheroes
who can walk on by and not be phased. I have been learning how to be a
superhero. It's not pretty or easy. It's a really lonely way to live. You don't
get paid, and most of the time no one publicly cheers you on. You famous people
can feed your schools of fish on your crumbs while they group hate for you for
free (internet body guards, what next?), but that makes me sick, and I think I'm
so unimpressed that I'm going to just keep doing what I'm doing and stop using
you guys as role models. I watch other people suck up over that kind of stuff
and I just reel away wondering when grown people stopped noticing their
playground mentality is what isolates the very people they CLAIM they want to
get help for. Is it any wonder we see the kind of stuff on the news that
horrifies us.
Piranhas. Barracudas. Pretty schools of
fish.